Thou Shalt Not Forsake Brotherhood

In the distant past, ok I’m lying, maybe more like 5 years ago I really underestimated the importance of developing strong relationships with other men. I was one of those guys who felt like I didn’t need anyone. I was the guy who the fella’s would accuse of bailing on the crew because I was more interested in going out on a date or meeting up with a new lady I was diggin’. There was even a stretch of time where I was completely missing in action for months because I just wasn’t interested in battling it out in Madden on the playstation with my guys anymore. I took the brotherhood for granted. Straight up for granted. As much as I used to make excuses for why I didn’t come around anymore I  knew deep down inside what I was doing would probably bite me in the butt when I was in a position to really needing them. Life has a funny way of teaching you lessons because when I found myself in a rut because things didnt work out with the new cutie, guess who came through to cheer a brother up? Ding Ding Ding, if you guessed the fellas, you are right. As a 30 year old married guy I have a different mindset on the real importance of having a few good men in your life. When I say good men, I’m talking about brothers who will check you when you are wrong. Brothers, who will hold you accountable and not allow you to make excuses for your poor behavior. Brother’s who will encourage you to be a better husband to your spouse. Men, who will challenge you not to settle for less than what you deserve in life. Those are the kind of soldiers every guy needs in their lives to make it in this world. No man is an island. I used to think it was weak to need other people, especially other men. There is no weakness in needing a helping hand. There truly is strength in numbers and I encourage all men to cultivate healthy relationships with other guys. It is a must. Some of my best friends are women and they offer so much in the form of friendship but there are things us guys go through that only other men can relate too. I wouldn’t trade my guys in for the world. They have been in my corner even when I wasn’t the greatest friend. Some of these guys I have known for 20 years and some change. Over the past few years  I’ve added a few new brothers to my circle of trust and it’s been a rewarding experience. So fella’s make it your mission to develop strong Brotherly relationships, I promise you won’t regret it.    


2 thoughts on “Thou Shalt Not Forsake Brotherhood

    1. Sandra Thank you for your kind comments. This post was written from the heart of my own shallow thinking in my late teens and early 20’s. I find so much value in developing healthy relationships with other men. Brotherhood is necessary as we as men take care of our homes and communities. I see you left your link. I will check it out


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